It’s All Fair in Love, Cats, and War

Let’s talk about love, shall we? Or shall I say, dating and relationships? Has your cat (or any type of beloved pet) become a source of contention between you and your love life?

I don’t want to gender the conversation, but I can only speak from my perspective as a woman. A lot of us have gotten involved in relationships that we deeply regretted. Several years ago, the man I was with every so often threatened me with ‘It’s me or the cats!’ I spent a lot of time over at his place away from my beloved kitties. The time we were at my place I enjoyed my cats’ company. He wanted all my attention. Any time he laid down the kitty ultimatum, I told him there’s the door. He dropped it altogether since he knew he couldn’t manipulate me. I later got involved with feline-friendly men who did not feel threatened by these magnificent mysterious beings.

Have you, no matter your gender, had tension within your relationships due to your partner not liking your pets and pressuring you to give them up? I cringe at people who submitted to such a decision against their will. How many pets winded up at shelters to be euthanized (heartbreaking) or giving away to someone else (obvious better scenario but still heartbreaking) on a relationship that probably ended? If you were pressured? If so, how did you deal with it? Were you two able to resolve it and come to an understanding that kept your pets safe and loved? Or did you just dump them?

Adopting a pet is a serious lifelong commitment. I don’t think it’s crazy or unreasonable to expect that we humans can love our fur babies while also enjoying love ourselves from our own species.


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